Being great “boyfriend material” means you want to stand out from the rest of the possible options a woman could date, and be the guy that she deserves. Making a conscious effort to be that kind of man means you genuinely are interested in her, and want to ensure you keep her around for a while. Being the right guy takes more than simply hoping she will notice what makes you different. Show her through your everyday actions that you genuinely want to be part of her life.

Make an effort to talk with her at least once a day. Even if it’s only a quick text, that is okay, although phone calls are best. Listen to her when she vents, and expresses her needs; and let her know that you are someone she can talk with about what’s going on in her life. Give her your attention when she talks, rather than letting the conversation become an afterthought. Keep making room for honest conversations so she knows that you care about what she has to say.

Set aside time for important people in your life including your girlfriend. That means scheduling in advance dates, outings, and time for her. Don’t be a workaholic with no fun! Be it on the couch watching a movie, or in bed after sex, you need to enjoy some cuddle time. Tell a joke once in a while, smile and laugh a lot to show that you’re a positive, upbeat and happy person! Make room for the little moments you share together. Let her see that spending time with her matters.

Yes, you’re fun, but you know when to be a goofball and when to be serious. Plan events, dates, getaways, etc. without relying on her to do it for you all the time. Show support and encouragement on a regular basis by showing up to important events in her life; and remember when she has something going on that is significant for her, you ask about it and make it important to you as well. Take initiative and follow through on your plans. Let her know she can count on your encouragement.